Please understand me...
This is a bit of a copy off Rushan's blog, but in case you are wondering what it is, it is taken from Please Understand Me: Character and Temperament Types. It kind of goes along with my post on masks.
"If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.
I do not for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your colleague. If you allow me any of my own wants, emotions, beliefs or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right - for me. To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.
Finale...
What has been said? Well, everybody's different and everybody's OK in their style as is. Let's face it; most of us are strangers to each other. I have my desires, you have yours. You keep yours and I'll keep mine because what each of us wants is good. What's more, you have your talent and I have mine and I can admire you for yours. I hope you will reciprocate.
It is simply not true that you and I go through the same stages to become mature. Maybe you had an identity crisis or two, but I didn't, and it's not because I'm immature or fixated at some stage, passage or season of my life. I'm just not into identity, never have been, never will be. I've other fish to fry.
Well, stranger, there isn't any way you can really understand me, but if you stop trying to change me to look like you, you might come to appreciate me. I'll settle for that. How about you?"
"If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.
I do not for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your colleague. If you allow me any of my own wants, emotions, beliefs or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right - for me. To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.
Finale...
What has been said? Well, everybody's different and everybody's OK in their style as is. Let's face it; most of us are strangers to each other. I have my desires, you have yours. You keep yours and I'll keep mine because what each of us wants is good. What's more, you have your talent and I have mine and I can admire you for yours. I hope you will reciprocate.
It is simply not true that you and I go through the same stages to become mature. Maybe you had an identity crisis or two, but I didn't, and it's not because I'm immature or fixated at some stage, passage or season of my life. I'm just not into identity, never have been, never will be. I've other fish to fry.
Well, stranger, there isn't any way you can really understand me, but if you stop trying to change me to look like you, you might come to appreciate me. I'll settle for that. How about you?"
Hey, cool! You copied something from my blog. I'm glad you liked it and that it has some relevance to your post on masks.
Just remember that the "please understand me" bit has to work two ways....you want people to understand you and accept you for who you are, but by the same token (and I know you do this anyway, but it is worth a reminder)you need to take the time to understand where others are coming from and accept them for who they are.
The reality is that none of us are perfect - we all have our weaknesses, imperfections, doubts, and all that...so if we can accept and love each other as God created us, warts 'n' all, imagine what an amazing place this world would be!
PS. You might like to turn on word verification as well so that the spam doesn't start attacking your blog!
Kia kaha!
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Rushan |
September 01, 2005 11:12 PM